How to overcome shyness - get rid of shyness

Are you a shy person? Whether you consider yourself shy or not, most people don't act the same in certain situations. I observed many generally "not shy" people and even they don't always behave the same depending on who is around them and what situation is.

Being shy is considered a problem for many people. But in reality, it's not a problem because it serves important purpose. What can be so important about being shy? First of all, most people do what is important to them. Obviously, being outgoing is not as important for you if you acting as a shy person.

For example, maybe someone thinks that you are shy, but the truth maybe that engaging in a conversation simply isn't so important for you as for some people.

If a person very outgoing and doesn't appear to be shy, it means that talking to people and doing some crazy things to get attention is more important.

As you can see, being shy can be as important for you as it's important for outgoing person to be outgoing.

Why being shy can be bad

Being shy can be bad sometimes if you got used to a certain behavior pattern and affraid to change yourself to get something you want.

People need to realize that changing habits is difficult for anyone, not just for shy people.

It would be hard for a shy person to become outgoing as it would be for outgoing person to become quiet and reserved.

Overcoming shyness

If shyness really bothers you and you want to become more outgoing and relaxed, you need to commit to it no matter how uncomfortable it can be at first. Everything is hard and uncomfortable when you try it for the first time. If it's really important for you not to be shy then decide not be shy anymore.

It would be easier if you changed your environment, because people sometimes can be shocked or wouldn't want to approve your new found outgoing personality. Most people don't like changes, so if you suddenly presented yourself as a new overly friendly person, they could think you are drunk or using drug...so be careful how you act and where you act.

It would be easier for you if you meet new people and don't act shy with them from a first day. They don't know who you are and how you feel, they only judge by what they see.

It's o'kay to feel nervous around people. I remember talking to one great woman who was wonderful in public speaking and she told me that she still gets nervous often. I would never guess she feels nervous if she didn't tell me. Being nervous is a normal feeling even for outgoing people.

So, just because you feel nervous, you don't have to act shy!

Overcome and get rid of shyness or not?

If you are certain you want to be less shy, then work on it. Take one step at a time, everyday, observe how you act and how you want to be perceived. Look at actors, they have great skills and experience to appear to people the way they want to be perceived.

What if you are comfortable and happy with your shyness?

Being shy and being comfortable with it is o'kay.

If you have other priorities and interests than engaging in communication with everyone you see, it's o'kay too.

For example, some people act shy when they don't want to be bothered or not interested in people. Acting shy is a lot easier than just to tell someone directly "don't talk to me and leave me alone". So, acting shy is easier and better for everyone than being rude.

There are many benefits of being shy, for example, some men really like quiet, soft and shy girls. Also, some women prefer more quiet and shy men than a loud, obnoxious person. Being shy is good too.

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