Why are men afraid of commitment ? Have you ever experienced dating a man who would seem great but would push you away when you are trying to get too close? Some men are afraid of commitment. One of the reasons is his painful past. Every man has something unpleasant that happened to him before, but some men feel more pain than others. Two people can have the same experiences in life but one would be really hurt and the other would be indifferent. Fear of commitment comes from his broken past and hurt soul.

It’s very hard for a woman to understand why some men are so afraid of commitment, afraid even to try. Such men would be stand offish, would be afraid of getting close, would be afraid to get hurt again. Just because you can’t understand his pain and his fear of commitment it’s not a reason to judge someone. Men who are afraid of commitment don’t want and don’t believe in a great future in a particular situation.

Some men are afraid of commitment with you but not with someone else. All he has to do is to find someone who has high enough value or good enough game for him to try to commit or pursue a committed relationship.

Women often get upset and angry at men who aren’t ready commit for whatever reason, but men in such situation are hurt as deeply. Just because it doesn’t make sense to you why he doesn’t want to commit to you and right now, it doesn’t mean he is inhuman or bad, he has to justify his own feelings. Some men don’t see a value in a committed relationship or some men have such particular fantasy of a real relationship that it hard not only to pursue but even to find anywhere. Some men have unreasonably high standards towards women.

What should you do if your man is afraid of commitment? First of all, you need either accept him the way he is or find someone who can satisfy your commitment needs. You maybe need only him, but if he isn’t ready to comply there is nothing you can do. You can try everything you can to pursue a relationship or make him commit, but if he doesn’t comply, there is nothing else that you can do. He has his own issues to work with and he has his own pain in life to work with.

Love your man the way he is and accept his wants only if you can emotionally afford it. It’s your decision to pursue a man who is afraid of commitment and you shouldn’t blame yourself for his decision. Commitment doesn’t look scary to you, but maybe makes him really uncomfortable in a way that you will never know.

Just because you can’t understand his fear of commitment, doesn’t make his fear unreal. If you love him the way he is, let him live his own life even if it’s life without you. Fear of commitment can be really strong and it’s not your fault he has it.